Welcome I realize I’m going to be dating myself a little bit with my title today, but that’s okay, it’s relevant. If you were around in 1984 and part of the first Footloose craze, you might be familiar with the song titled “Let’s Hear it for the Boy” by Deniese Williams. I listen to a lot of music, especially when I’m working on my blog, and it covers a pretty wide range of genres. Today I’m going to talk about how this song connected with a book I was reading and both can have a positive impact on my marriage. I will also be sharing my husband’s favorite dinner, which is one of the quickest, easiest meals I could possibly make! Thank you for stopping by today. Note-I may receive small compensation from advertisements and affiliate links seen on this blog. I am not sponsored by any of the authors or publishers mentioned in this post. For further information, please see my terms and disclosure page.
Food For Thought If you are a regular follower of my blog, you know that I read the book Becoming the Woman of His Dreams by Sharon Jaynes, this summer. I can appreciate quality, scripturally-based literature for improving my marriage and relationships, and usually seek out these types of books for my leisurely reading time. I like when books make me think, even if they make me ask questions, or cause a debate in my head. It shows I’m being an active participant in life, rather than passively taking everything I read at face value. There’s even a Bible study guide at the back of the book with scriptures and questions to help support you on your journey. Based off research, interviews, and surveys of hundreds of men, this book outlines seven key qualities or behaviors that men are looking for in their “dream wife.” Respect, adoration, intimate friendship, protection of their marriage (loyalty and faithfulness), encouragement, sexual fulfillment, and a wife that prays for her husband were the top seven (not necessarily in the order I just gave.) Many things I read in that book I completely agreed with, and either said “whew, I’m glad I’ve got that right” or “uh-oh, I need to work a little more on that.” I mean, I do have a goal here to be a really good Christian wife, or possibly even great, but most days that seems a bit lofty of a goal. Today I’m going to combine 2 of the items from the list, adoration and encouragement. Combining these two traits will help us wives become our husbands best cheerleaders.
As I was working the other day, I was listening to a soft rock station on iheartradio, that plays hits from “the 80’s, 90’s, and today.” The song “Let’s Hear it for the Boy” came on and as I listened to the lyrics I thought about what I was reading in my book. It made a connection–I bet this is what our husbands want us to say…let’s hear it for the boy, let’s hear it for my man! My husband wants, and needs, me to be his cheerleader. The song says “he may not be rich…” but I can tell you my husband is a hard worker, smart, and a very good provider for our family. Not all women can say that about their men, unfortunately, but I’m going to brag about my man and let him know that I appreciate what he does. Another line from the song is “maybe he’s no Romeo…” I’m not sure how romantic Romeo really was, I’m not really a fan of the whole double suicide-thing from the old story, but I think we know what the singer is getting at in her lyrics. Yes, there are times I would like my husband to be more romantic, and as I’ve told him before, if I have to tell you what exactly to do to be romantic, it doesn’t really count. He gave flowers frequently when we were dating, and now I may see fresh flowers once a year. We’ve traded in candlelight dinners for a dining room table we share with our daughter’s massive Lego collection. But you know what…he is romantic, in a different way. He takes me on the most amazing hiking trips every year, just the two of us. We get a cabin or hotel with a hot tub. We spend days on the trail, sometimes completely alone with each other, and it is completely intimate. I love that he chooses to spend his vacation time with me in this way. And for gifts, he gives me framed pictures (he takes amazing photos!) of some of our best waterfalls we’ve seen so that we can think about those special times all year long. So, yeah, let’s hear it for my boy, let’s hear it for my man!
Men long so much for admiration and appreciation, that studies have shown if they don’t get these praises at home, they will go elsewhere. Yes, in some instances this leads to an affair with another woman, but that’s not always the case. It may mean that he spends more time at work, to hear praise from the boss or coworkers. He may train extra hard at the gym or play hard on his sports teams so he can hear admiration from his buddies. I don’t know about you, but I want to offer all the praises I can and keep him coming home to me! My husband is not perfect, but I’m not either. But he is humble, and if I’m not going to be his cheerleader, who will? It is an honor and privilege as his wife to sing his praises to anyone who will listen.
Today’s Scriptures Here are some verses from scripture that can remind us how to speak in love and encouragement to our husbands.
Ephesians 4:29 “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of our mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”
1 John 4:11-12 “Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. no one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.”
Proverbs 31:12 “She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.”
Suggested Readings (links verified on 9/14/17 at 3:45 pm CDT):
Also, I recommend the website for the 30 Day Husband Encouragement Challenge.
Today’s Prayer Dear Lord, I come before you praying for the wives of this world, that we will remember to provide the needed encouragement and adoration that our husbands so desperately need. I pray for my husband and all husbands–their health, safety, the works of their hands, and their spiritual walks. I pray for strong marriages, that they will become the norm, and not the oddity in our society. Let us provide words of encouragement for our husbands, and also to each other, lifting one another up in love, as you have commanded. We pray these things in Jesus’ Name, Amen.
Today’s Recipe One of the ways I show my husband adoration is by fixing his favorite meals. He can come home from a long day at work and know that I am going to be setting the table with food that is nourishing for his body but also delicious and made with love to nourish his spirit. Throughout our marriage I have been able to get my husband to increase his adventure in food and try new things, but his favorite meals are the most simple. One of his absolute favorite meals, at home or away, is taco salad. And it is one of the simplest meals to prepare and is always a crowd pleaser when we serve it to others. So here is how I prepare taco salad for my husband.
Taco Salad (serves 10-12; this works great for a crowd, but we usually have leftovers for lunch or dinner for a few days)
- 3 pounds hamburger meat
- 2 pkgs. low-sodium taco seasoning
- 1 large yellow onion chopped
- 1-2 bags of tortilla chips
- 1 head of romaine lettuce, chopped
- 1 bag of shredded Mexican cheese blend
- condiments of your choosing-salsa, sour cream, hot sauce, guacamole, black olives, green onions, chopped tomatoes, etc.
- In large skillet (I use my electric skillet), brown hamburger. Drain off grease and add seasoning packets and onion; cook another 5 minutes or so. Place some crushed chips on plate, top with meat, lettuce and cheese. Add desired condiments. See…easy!