Prayers to Safeguard Your Marriage

Welcome and Happy Valentine’s Day It’s called the day of love.  Hopefully you have feelings of love for your spouse today! Some days the love flows a little easier than others, am I right?  For our Valentine post today I have a sweet heart candy recipe and a discussion about praying for our marriages, which is important any day of the year! Thanks for joining me today.

Food For Thought  When I read Sharon Jaynes’ book Becoming the Woman of His Dreams, the fifth section of the book was dedicated to safeguarding our marriages.  This is probably the third book I have read that uses that phrase and addresses the idea of offering prayers to safeguard our marriages.  What I noticed in most of these texts is that “safeguard” our marriage is often referring to avoiding adulterous behaviors, either physically or emotionally.  Yes, there is such a thing as emotional affairs.  This would involve engaging in intimate conversations and looking to someone of the opposite gender to meet our deep emotional needs and passions.  These emotional affairs often lead to physical affairs later.  I am certainly in agreement that praying for our marriages is a key attribute to their success.  What I want to elaborate on, though, is prayers to safeguard our marriage can, and should, go much deeper than just the seventh commandment.

Don’t get me wrong, praying for your spouse, and perhaps yourself, to remain faithful is not a wasted prayer.  I know, I’ve said those prayers before, whether or not there was an actual threat or problem.  But safeguarding our marriage extends beyond physical affairs, and here’s why.  Anyone that has been married longer than two years, knows from experience, every marriage will run into trials and troubles.  There will be hardships.  There is a “worse” to that “better.”  There is “sickness.”  There is “for poor.”  How is your marriage going to hold up during these times of turbulence?  I believe the key is to begin praying these safeguard prayers before tragedy strikes.  Communication with your spouse is also very important, but continually praying for your marriage will aid in knowing how to weather these storms when they arrive through God’s wisdom and counsel.

I pray daily for the protection of our home.  I pray daily for the safety and health of my husband.  I pray to be a better wife.  By better, I mean I am praying for patience and understanding.  I am praying to be a better listener.  I am praying for control over my emotions and reactions.  I am praying that we use our finances wisely and in agreement.  I pray that we not fight over minor things that have no real importance.  I pray that we are good role models and leaders for our daughter.  I pray that I allow my husband to be the leader in our home and that I accept his decisions without poor attitude.  And I pray that we know how to work together and support one another when difficulties come up.  I pray that God will be present, working with us and through us during our toughest times.

If you read my post yesterday about “my squad,” you know that my husband is my biggest cheerleader.  He is not just my cheerleader when things are going well and life is easy at our house.  He cheers me on when I need a career change.  He supports me when I face health issues, ending our chances for any more children, as well as roller-coaster hormones.  He lends his emotional support when I go through periods of depression.  He is the sturdy rock when I can’t face one more household problem or balance one more task on my to-do list.  I work hard to be his cheerleader, too.  I am by his side when he deals with health issues and goes in for unexpected surgery.  I am encouraging when he’s making decisions about work.  I assure him that I am with him, no matter where life’s road takes us.  Even when it feels hard.  So, I believe all of those prayers work in our favor.

As it is often said, faith doesn’t make things easy, it makes them possible.  That’s sort of how this prayer thing works for our marriages.  Marriage is not easy.  It’s fun.  It’s worth it.  It’s an adventure.  But like so many things in life worth having, it’s not easy.  It requires work and dedication.  But prayer and a God-centered home makes the hard stuff possible.  Even when times are good and things feel easy, don’t forget to pray to safeguard your marriage.  Those prayers deliver strength and direction when you will need it most.

If you are looking for more ideas like this for your marriage…encouraging verses, prayers for one another, ways to connect emotionally, or ways to date your spouse and keep the spark alive, check out my Pinterest Board, Marriage.

Today’s Prayer  My Dear Heavenly Father, I pray for protection for my marriage today.  I pray that we offer support to one another in the most difficult times.  I pray that we resist things that bring short-lived happiness at the expense of one another’s feelings or trust.  I pray that we know how to weather the storms of life together.  I pray that we continue to find renewed love and loyalty to one another.  Thank You that You have brought us together and have blessed us with our marriage, our home, and our family.  In Jesus’ Holy Name, Amen.

Today’s Scriptures  One of the things I wish my husband and I did more often is read scripture together.  I’ve talked about this with him, and bless his heart, he says he feels insecure because he feels he knows so much less about the Bible than I do.  Of course, the way to counter that is to actually spend more time in scripture and study, but it takes a lot of coaxing on my part and I don’t want to put too much pressure on him.  If I were to pick just one passage from scripture to read together with my husband it would be these two verses from Song of Solomon.

Today’s Recipe  I found this super cute silicone heart mold at Hobby Lobby in January.  I loved the scalloped edges.  I bought it and then decided I could make heart-shaped peanut butter cups in it.  I loved when my mom made homemade peanut butter cups at Christmas when I was growing up.  I wanted a fun fit for Valentine’s Day using her recipe.  They were yummy and cute, but the down-side is they were really too big.  Looking back, I could have made them smaller, which would have stretched my ingredients and made them into more manageable portions.  Also, with only having one mold, it takes a while to make all of the heart cups.  I bet there’s an easier way out there.  However, these were a huge hit with my daughter and some friends I shared them with as a fun “thinking of you” surprise.Valentine Heart Peanut Butter Cups

Notes: I made 18 very large candies.  You could easily get 24-30 regular size cups.  As much as this makes, this is still only HALF of my mom’s recipe!  Also, if you don’t have the hear-shaped silicone mold, you can use a muffin tin with cupcake liners.  I use Ghiradelli melting wafers because I think they taste the best, but they are pricey.  You may want a cheaper option.  Finally, plan ahead when you make these, allowing for time for the bottom layer to set completely before adding the peanut butter filling and final chocolate coating.

  • 2 sticks butter, melted
  • 1 cup peanut butter
  • 1 1/2-2 lbs. powdered sugar (my powdered sugar is sold in 2 lb. bags, I use MOST of the bag)
  • 1/2 tsp vanilla
  • Chocolate melting wafers (I used 3 10-oz bags of Ghiradelli dark chocolate melting wafers)
  • Colored decorator gel (optional)
Combine butter, peanut butter, vanilla, and powdered sugar in large bowl. When adding sugar, add 1/2 cup at a time until you get to a moldable consistency. Its best to mix together with your hands.
Melt chocolate in microwave according to package directions.
Using a large spoon, scoop melted chocolate into each cup of the mold or paper lined-cup until bottom is coated. Place in refrigerator for 30 minutes.
When first chocolate layer has set, remove from refrigerator. Roll a small amount of the peanut butter mixture into a ball, then flatten into a disc and place on top of first chocolate layer.
Top peanut butter discs with additional melted chocolate. Place in refrigerator for 30 minutes or until firm.
When chocolate has set, remove from silicone molds and place on plate or tray. If using paper liners, they can be left in their liners for serving. If desired, use gel decorator icing to write messages on the hearts. Repeat steps until all filling has been used. You may have left-over chocolate, depending on how big you make your cups.