A Prudent Wife

Welcome  I have enjoyed sharing from my personal Bible study for “marriage care.”  Today’s scripture is one of the fourteen I shared during the first couple weeks of February.  Verse 14 is also the focus of our topic today: What is a prudent wife?

Today’s Scripture

Food For Thought  Verse 13 is pretty easy to understand, I think.  The constant drip of a leaky roof is so annoying, even worrisome, and the owner wants to be rid of the problem as quickly as possible.  This verse is basically saying that a wife that quarrels often with her husband has the same effect.  Don’t be the quarrelsome wife!  Yeah, I’m working on that, too!

In my study, I was more interested in the last sentence of the passage, “a prudent wife is from the Lord.”  Being from the Lord is bound to be a good thing, right?  This leads me to believe that I should be that prudent wife, so I can be more Godly.  But how does one become a prudent wife, exactly?

First, prudent is not exactly a word we use often these days.  Since I lack understanding of the word, it’s difficult to know what to do to have more of this trait.  This is the case in many of my personal Bible studies.  Words in scripture are not always common in today’s speech and language, so many times, my Bible studies include diving into a dictionary or thesaurus.  Such was the case for this study.

Defining “prudent,” I learned it means to “act with or show care and thought for the future.”  Ahhh….a planner…that’s me!  I can understand where being mindful of the future is a valuable characteristic for a wife and mother.  Most wives and mothers I know are the keepers of the calendars, organizing and balancing all of the families activities, making sure that everyone gets to where they’re supposed to be on the right day and at the right time.  This can be anything from doctors’ and dentists’ appointments to soccer practices, dance recitals, and band concerts.  It’s a balance of playdates, sleepovers, shopping trips, and youth group activities.  And let’s not forget due dates for assignments, proposals, and bills.  Personally, I enjoy being in charge of the calendar at our house.  I like schedules and to-do lists.  I am visual, so having a chart or list helps me see both the big and small pictures.  I also have an easier time planning out long-range.  These are my strengths, but not my husband’s, so it works well that I can “show care and thought for the future,” via our calendar pages.

prudent definition
Understanding the word “prudent” will help understand and apply the message of Proverbs 19:14

This definition covers a lot for what a prudent wife might be able to do, but I had a strong feeling there was more to it than calendars and schedules.  I looked up synonyms for “prudent.”  The list was quite lengthy.  Some of the words included in the list were: wise, well-judged, judicious, sagacious, sage, shrewd, advisable, well-advised, sensible, common-sensical, cautious, careful, wary, circumspect, far-sighted, fore-thoughtful, thrifty, economical, canny, sparing, and frugal.  And this is only part of the list!

I believe to be a “prudent wife,” these all come into play, and I think part of being prudent is to know when to apply which description.  Right now, in our family, my husband is earning the paycheck, but I’m the keeper of the budget and see that all the bills are paid on time and I know which months we can afford a splurge and which weeks the grocery budget has to be tighter.  I like to think I know when it’s best to spend a little more for quality sake and when we can “cheap out.”

Being prudent, at the moment, means I don’t bring up buying a new car, knowing that I only use my vehicle for short trips around town and an extra bill each month would be a challenge.  I buy our household items, such as paper products and cleaning supplies, at the local dollar store as opposed to a store like Target.  I learned two years ago how to plan ahead and hold three 3-day yard sales each summer that fund things like back-to-school shopping, while also getting rid of things we no longer want or need.  I am sensible about shopping trips, only going to stores when I truly need something, knowing that going to a store with no plan often leads to unnecessary purchases.  I am sensible about errands, too.  If I’m already in a certain part of town, I will run any errands that need to be done in that area so I can save on gas in my car.

Looking to the future covers a broad range of tasks.  Savings and emergency funds may be part of prudence.  So is having well-stocked first-aid kits and disaster packs.  Helping spouse and children make long-range plans is important as well, covering topics ranging from college savings to retirement.

A prudent wife is from the Lord and it’s a good thing!  I couldn’t possibly manage the many tasks that this role encompasses without His daily help and guidance.  I embrace the responsibilities that come with the privilege of being a wife and mother, knowing God has blessed me well in this area.  I just ask that He show me how to do it well!

Today’s Recipe

A prudent wife, I think, is also going to be savvy in the kitchen, able to save time and money while feeding the family delicious, nutritious meals. I think today’s recipe fits that description. I’m using more of our Slow Cooker Pulled Chicken from Tuesday’s recipe and morphing it into a simple and fast pasta dinner. It’s a one-pot meal so there’s little clean-up and pasta comes cheap!

And speaking of frugal, the four pounds of boneless, skinless chicken breasts I bought to make our Slow Cooker Pulled Chicken cost about $7, on sale. That was 6 LARGE chicken breasts that became four fast and frugal meals for our family this week. A little planning and looking toward the future can have a big impact on time and money!

You Will Need:

  • 2 cups cooked chicken (pulled, shredded, or chopped)
  • 1 16-oz pkg spaghetti or fettuccini noodles (spaghetti and macaroni noodles are more often on sale than fancier cuts of pasta…weird!)
  • 2 8-oz pkgs frozen broccoli
  • 1 jar alfredo sauce
  • grated parmesan, for serving, if desired

Bring a large stock pot of salted water to boil over high heat. The standard suggestion is 1:1:4 ratio, or one pound of pasta requires one tablespoon of salt in four quarts (16 cups) of water. I’ve been cooking pasta long enough now that I just eyeball everything.

Once water is boiling, reduce to medium-high and add spaghetti noodles, cooking about five or six minutes. Add frozen broccoli to pot and allow to cook another 8-12 minutes. The best way to check doneness is to taste a strand of pasta to see if it’s your desired texture. When pasta and broccoli are cooked, drain the water.

Add alfredo sauce and cooked chicken to pot, stirring to coat with sauce.

Serve in bowls with grated parmesan, if desired.