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Welcome Last week I shared some of my favorite “words to live by” quotes in my Smart Quotes post. After writing that post, I started thinking about marriage quotes. Now, I’m using the term “quote” loosely here, thinking really more of just things people say about marriage and being married. The absolute saddest quote I’ve ever heard about marriage was said by a coworker several years ago. Even more sad, she said it fairly often, so it wasn’t like she was just irritated at her husband or something. I just think this is how she felt.
Food For Thought In a conversation with some fellow teachers, we were discussing how we try to keep our marriage and love life interesting after not being newlyweds anymore. It was a perfectly PG conversation, I promise! We were talking about the little things we say or do to make our spouses feel special after several anniversaries have come and gone. Many age and anniversary numbers were represented, so the wisdom was varied. One of the ladies said something I found to be deeply sad, though. She said, “After you’re married twenty years, you lose interest. Nothing really matters, so why bother.”
Yikes! Her words really got me thinking. Now, I will admit when I’m going through a low-mood phase I can kind of feel like nothing matters, but that’s not limited to my marriage. Generally speaking, I can’t imagine not being interested in making my husband feel loved. I strive to make him feel like he’s the number one fella on this planet and he still makes my heart race and gives me goosebumps. I want to go out of my way to let him know I love him just as much today as I did when we met, shared our first kiss, or got married. I want him to know I’m still attracted to him in all the ways that made me first fall in love with him.
Actually, I love him even more now, if that can be imagined. I’ve had all these years to see what a great father and provider he is for our family. I’ve watched him mature and grow in his faith. I’ve witnessed directly how supportive and loving he is to me, even when I’m difficult. He has proven over and over again that he is the perfect mate for me.
At the time of the conversation, I believe I had been married about ten years. I was amazed that someone would feel like that after being married “only” twenty years. I kept thinking, oh, please don’t let that be what I have to look forward to! I’ve been married 14 years now and my opinion has not changed. I still think I should be making every effort to show my affection and desire for my husband in so many ways. Will I always get it right? Nope. Will the sentiment always be returned? Nah. Do I just give up then? Absolutely not!
I think (and I know this isn’t a guarantee for every relationship, I’m sad to say) that as long as I still communicate I’m in love with my husband, he will continue to be in love with me. And about those increasing years…I don’t see them as diminishing my interest in him at all. I see them as a great blessing that I have longer to be with my husband and longer to figure out all of his favorite little expressions of affection. Our time together is short as it is, I don’t want to treat him like a boring obligation!
On a side note, I believe my coworker and her husband do love each other very much. This conclusion is based off watching their interactions. And deep down, I’m not sure she means she’s “lost interest.” I just think they’ve stopped trying to creatively tell each other how they feel. We all know life happens, right? Just don’t let this quote become your belief!
Today’s Scripture This may just possibly be the best scripture to memorize to survive the ups and downs of marriage!
Today’s Encouragement Let’s not focus on the sad quote. Let’s focus on some positive marriage quotes. Here are a few of my favorites:
Burn the candles. Use the nice sheets. Wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is a special occasion. Regina Brett
I want a relationship where people look at us and say, “You can tell God put them together.” Kristy Butler
No matter how expensive the pillow is, it could never be as comfortable as my husband’s shoulder. Unknown
Don’t ever stop dating your wife and don’t ever stop flirting with your husband. Unknown
Happy is the wife who learns the art of praising her husband in public. Christy Fitzwater
Always strive to give your spouse the very best of yourself; not what’s left over after you’ve given your best to everyone else. Dave Willis
For some more great quotes, advice, articles, scriptures, and “date your spouse” ideas, check out my Marriage board on Pinterest.
Today’s Recipe It’s no secret that my husband and I have a connection through food. Whether he brings me a dozen chocolate covered strawberries in place of flowers or I pick him up some of his favorite beef jerky and trail mix, we seem to use snacks or sweets to let the other know we’re thinking of them.
Another way I speak to his heart is preparing some of his favorite dinners here at home. Today’s recipe really makes his tummy roar with delight, bringing together three of his favorite things: meatballs, pasta, and cheese. It’s tasty for the whole family but also simple, since it uses premade meatballs (You can always make your own meatballs for this dish, too.) This Meatball Mac and Cheese dish is heartfelt comfort food at its best.
“Healthy dish” will never label this delicious meal. However, I did bake the meatballs instead of frying and the cream is cut with equal parts low-sodium broth and skim milk. I also used 2% shredded cheeses in the recipe. This recipe makes a lot of food, so you can feed a crowd, eat delicious leftovers, or even divide it and freeze half. We like a simple side salad to go with this rich meal.
Meatball Mac and Cheese (This makes a lot!!!)
- 1 24-oz pkg Johnsonville Italian-style Meatballs
- 1 16-oz pkg large elbow macaroni
- 4 TBS butter
- 1 small yellow onion, diced
- 1/2 cup flour
- 1/4 tsp salt
- 1 tsp smoked Paprika
- 1 tsp black pepper
- 1/2 tsp garlic powder
- 1 cup low-sodium chicken broth
- 1 cup heavy cream
- 1 cup milk (I used skim)
- 2 cups shredded cheddar cheese (I used 2%)
- 1 cup shredded Monterey Jack cheese
Set oven to 350 degrees. Place meatballs in a single layer on a rimmed baking sheet. Bake meatballs for 30 minutes.
Place macaroni in a large pot. Cover the noodles with water and a little salt. Bring to boil over high heat. Once boiling, reduce heat to medium, cooking pasta for about 7 minutes. When pasta is tender, drain well.
In another large pot, melt the butter. Add onion and stir, cooking for about five minutes, watching closely so it doesn’t burn.
When onion is beginning to brown, add flour and spices, and whisk to combine.
Add chicken broth and continue to whisk. Add cream and milk, continuing to whisk until mixture is thick and bubbly.
Add cheeses and continue to whisk until a thick and gooey cheese sauce has been made.
Add the drained macaroni to the pot and stir to coat completely.
Add cooked meatballs to the pot and stir to distribute the meatballs evenly.
Serve and enjoy!
Today’s Helpful Products from Amazon I used a large Calphalon nonstick pot to mix up my cheese sauce and eventually put the rest of the meal together. I also used an OXO Good Grips silicone whisk for the sauce so I wouldn’t scratch the surface of my pot. Here are the links to these two products.