Welcome I have always been a planner. I was one of those people that thought that if you planned everything out and worked hard, it would prevent mishaps and life troubles. Be prepared for anything and everything, right? Living this life led to a lot of anxiety, worry, fear, and depression. And you know what else? It has never been a foolproof plan for preventing difficulties in life. More often than not, I was left feeling worse because of my planning, feeling like I had wasted time, money, and effort, or questioning how this could possibly have happened. So for the second half of my life I am trying to find some sort of balance between the two philosophies of living for the day and planning for tomorrow.
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Food For Thought I have lived most of my life as a “plan for tomorrow” kind of person. This is not necessarily a bad thing. This mindset has helped me get into a good college, complete multiple degrees in education, and work for eighteen years in public education with some sort of success. I also believe this has prevented my family and me from becoming overwhelmed with debt, knowing we can’t just go out and buy every thing and experience we may want in the moment. Thinking ahead has helped me think through consequences of choices, keeping me out of trouble, for the most part.
So what’s my problem? My forties, that’s my problem! When I turned forty this year, something in my brain snapped. I guess you could say I became very aware of my mortality. Think about it, 81 is the average lifespan of a woman in the US. This fact, along with acceptance of health issues I face, I realize my life is probably half over. “What a downer,” you may be saying. But I’m not trying to be negative. I’ve just reached the age and stage of life when I want to make the most of my time I have left. I no longer have the mindset of invincibility like the younger crowd, thinking, “There’s always tomorrow.”
Newsflash! There is NEVER a guarantee of tomorrow. Whether it’s a freak accident like the Duck Boat incident in Branson or a tragic illness that suddenly strikes, we can be hit with life altering circumstances at any time. This makes me think, what am I saving and planning for? I certainly can’t take my riches, and I use that term very loosely, with me when I go. In Luke 12:13-21, we’re given a parable of the rich fool who tried to plan and store up for later days. God called him a fool and demanded his life from him that very night (v. 20).
Of course I know this story is about sharing what we have and using our time for God, not kicking back. I know this is NOT God’s way of saying, “You only live once, go have fun!” But have you ever wondered, what are we waiting for?
My husband and I are at sort of an impasse right now with this question of “live for today or save for tomorrow.” I know he is being completely logical and thinking of our family’s future. But I am now at the point where I say things like, what future? It’s sad, but men have an even shorter life expectancy than women, and my husband is older than me. I want to make sure that we get to live out some of our dreams together before it’s too late. Sadly, this plagues my mind a lot. But I also don’t want to be a nagging wife and cause strife in our marriage over my desire to jump all the way in to living my dreams, while he’s thinking about important stuff like mortgages and insurance and college for our daughter.
Suggested Readings I read many different articles and blog posts about this topic, trying to achieve some better level of understanding. There were many different perspectives in my readings. I would not begin to list all of them here, but here are a few to get you started if you are seeking answers to this question like I am.
Today’s Scriptures I often seek these words when I’m struggling with the planning dilemma. It’s good to be humble in my planning.
James 4:13-17 (ESV) “Come now, you who say, ‘Today or tomorrow we will go into such and such a town and spend a year there and trade and make a profit’–yet you do not know what tomorrow will bring. What is your life? For you are a mist that appears for a little time and then vanishes. Instead you ought to say, ‘If the Lord wills, we will live and do this or that.’ As it is, you boast in your arrogance. All such boasting is evil. So whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is to sin.”
Today’s Recipe Are you familiar with the phrase, “Life’s short, eat dessert first.”? I’m a fan of this phrase, probably because I love dessert so much, but at our house you have to eat dinner first. Dems da rules! But we sure don’t skip dessert, either!
When I think of a Live-for-the-Day kind of dessert, I want something warm and gooey and rich and chocolatey, and maybe throw in some peanut butter for good measure. That’s where today’s recipe starts. If you want something super decadent, but equally easy, this recipe is for you! These are Peanut Butter Cup Stuffed Brownies with Peanut Butter Buttercream and Hot Fudge Drizzle. Sound good? Oh, yeah!
Peanut Butter Cup Stuffed Brownies with Peanut Butter Buttercream and Hot Fudge Drizzle
- 1 family-size box brownie mix (I used a store brand, fudge flavor mix)
- Oil, water, and eggs called for on the mix
- 12 regular-size peanut butter cups, unwrapped
- 2 sticks butter, softened
- 1/4 cup peanut butter
- 1 lb. powdered sugar
- 2 tsp vanilla
- 2 TBS milk
- 2 TBS hot fudge sauce
Heat oven at 350 degrees. Spray a 9×13 baking dish with nonstick cooking spray. Prepare brownie mix according to package directions. Pour brownie batter into prepared pan. Place peanut butter cups in the brownie batter, pressing down slightly, in even rows.
Bake at 350 for 30-35 minutes. Remove from oven and allow to cool completely.
For frosting, cream butter and peanut butter together in large bowl. I love my Classic Kitchen Aide Stand Mixer for this job. Add powdered sugar and mix on low for one minute. Add vanilla and milk and continue to beat on medium speed until desired frosting consistency is achieved.
Frost brownies with the peanut butter buttercream. Heat hot fudge sauce according to container directions. Drizzle back and forth over frosting layer. Using a knife or frosting spatula, gently swirl back and forth to achieve a simple decorative appearance for the brownies. Cut when ready to serve. These are very sweet and rich, so small pieces are a great idea for this dessert.
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