Teaching our Children to be Humble

Welcome  Last week, I shared how well our parent conferences went with our daughter who is now in middle school. (Read more at Pray For Your Children…It Matters)  When we finally spoke to the tenth and final teacher, we looked at our daughter and said, “Are you going to be able to fit through the door to even go home?”  Everyone laughed and joked because we didn’t want her to get the “big head” from hearing all the positive praise that evening.  But joking aside, I seriously thought about how to make this a learning opportunity for my daughter and how to accept compliments with humility.

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Food For Thought  Like me, my daughter thrives on verbal praise.  This is a good thing, because I prefer she not need tangible gifts as rewards, although there’s nothing wrong with this occasionally.  I just don’t want her to only do the “right” thing so she can get something.  But my kid sure loves compliments and she has a lot of confidence in being her own person because I think most adults in her life have positively reinforced this.  However, I have noticed recently that when she gets a compliment, rather than saying thank you, she will say, “I know.”  So her dad and I have been working on teaching her about being humble.  When we first used this word with her, she didn’t even know what it meant!

To be humble is to show a modest or low estimate of one’s importance.  This is tricky, because we do want our child to feel important as far as her ideas are worth sharing and she has skills that are worth praising.  We also want her to understand the need to accept compliments graciously.  The key is to help her behave and act in such a way so that no one feels less important than her.  We have talked about not being boastful or seeking praise for yourself.  I think she gets it, but it’s tough being a preteen.  There’s a fine line to balance between confidence in your own abilities and being humble in the talents you possess.

The thing is, as I travel this road with her, I’m learning too.  Maybe I don’t need to post every school award or recognition she receives on social media.  Maybe when we receive compliments on our daughter, we need to humbly say “Thank you,” and move on.  And I certainly want to give God ALL THE GLORY for blessing us with this child and the work He is doing for her and through her.

Today’s Scriptures  My daughter is just beginning to reach the age where I can pull actual Bible wisdom to share with her, rather than just the children’s Bible stories.  It’s time to engage her in “meatier” scripture and talk about the application of these verses in her life, as well as mine.  Here are our favorite Bible verses about being humble.


Today’s Recipe  Oh, the humble nacho…a plastic or cardboard tray of cheese with some stale chips.  Would you like jalapenos with that?  Not so fast!  My daughter’s favorite place to eat right now is Pepper Jax and her favorite item to order is the loaded chicken nachos.  This is a meat and veggie filled entrée, believe me!  But our family tries to not eat dinner out a lot, for budget and health reasons.  So why not recreate my daughter’s favorite eatery at home?  So today’s recipe is for the not-so-humble Loaded Chicken Fajita Nachos.  The best thing about this type of recipe is that it’s so customizable.  Make it spicy or mild.  Add more or use less vegetables.  Don’t like black beans?  Use pintos or omit them altogether.  Pick your favorite nacho cheese sauce.  At our house, I actually have to buy two types of cheese sauce because little girl likes basic yellow cheddar cheese, while my husband and I like spicy queso blanco.  The following recipe is how we serve them.  It makes a great fun weekend or party food.

Loaded Chicken Fajita Nachos
A full meal of chicken, vegetables, and all your favorite nacho fixin’s.


Loaded Chicken Fajita Nachos (about 6 servings of the fajita meat and vegetables)

  • 1 TBS olive oil
  • 1 1/2 lbs boneless, skinless chicken breasts, cut into strips (like fajita-style meat)
  • 1 oz. pkg. fajita seasoning (lower-sodium, if available)
  • 1 large yellow onion, cut into strips
  • 1 large bell pepper, cut into strips
  • 1 15-oz. can black beans
  • 1 jar Queso or Nacho cheese sauce (we like Tostito’s Medium Queso Blanco and Mission Cheddar Cheese dips)
  • 1 bag tortilla chips
  • 1 jar jalapeno slices (we like Mezetta pickled jalapeno slices)
  • sliced black olives
  • shredded lettuce
  • shredded cheese
  • sour cream
  • salsa


Heat olive oil in large skillet.  Add chicken and add half the package of fajita seasoning, cooking 3-4 minutes.  Turn and continue to cook chicken another 3-4 minutes. 

Add vegetables to pan and top with remaining fajita seasoning.  Toss vegetables with chicken and cook 4-5 minutes, or until vegetables begin to soften.

Heat black beans in a small skillet over medium low heat.  Heat queso or cheese sauce in a small pot over medium low heat.

Top each plate with some tortilla chips along with some of the fajita chicken and vegetables.  Add some black beans and your choice of cheese sauce.

Let everyone add their favorite nacho toppings, such as shredded lettuce, olives, salsa, sour cream, etc.

This is “nacho ordinary” appetizer.  This is a meal!  And it’s fun food for the whole family or your game-watchin’ friends!

Today’s Recommended Products from Amazon  I’m going to be very honest with you.  My kitchen is packed with Calphalon cookware and OXO Good Grips utensils.  I use very little from other brands in these two categories.  I cook a lot, have been for many years, and these are the products that I love and use every day because they are that good.  They work so well and have great durability, so they’re worth the investment because they don’t need replacement.  I’ve only had to replace one Calphalon pan in the fourteen years my husband and I have been married.  All of my OXO Good grips utensils are still going strong!  I am not sponsored by these two brands, just an Amazon affiliate, but it would be hard for me to recommend any other brands to avid cooks like myself.  Here are links to some of the products I used for today’s recipe.

Calphalon Signature Non-Stick Hard Anodized Aluminum Every Day Chef Pan

Calphalon Stainless Steel 10-Piece Cookware Set

OXO Good Grips Tongs

OXO Good Grips Ladle