Why be a “Lady in Waiting?”

Welcome  Last year I shared one of my absolute favorite stories on the blog.  It was titled Lady in Waiting and shared the divine story of how God brought my husband and me together after years of waiting and wondering.  Of course I love that story because it’s so special and personal, but I also learned so much from about patience, trust, and God’s timing through the experience.  I based my title on a popular book I read while in college with the same name.  This phrase was recently brought to my attention again while reading a relationship help book.  One of the “wife tips” said, “Be his devoted lady in waiting.”  So I began to wonder about this phrase and what exactly it means, especially after referring to it so many times.  Please note: This post contains affiliate links.  As an Amazon affiliate, I receive a small commission when you click on one of my Amazon product links and make a qualifying purchase.  There is no additional cost to you and helps keep this site free for your use and free from pop-ups.  Thank you.

Food For Thought  My own personal experience with being a “lady in waiting” was based on the fact that I had to wait patiently to find my God-sent mate.  Time well worth the wait, I might add!  My limited knowledge for the background of this phrase assumed it was from medieval or renaissance era and involved feminine expectation.  So, time to do a little research.  What’s so special about this idea of a lady in waiting?

Well, the actual definition of lady in waiting is a “female personal assistant to a court, royal, or feudal, attending the royal female or highest-ranking noble female…who may or may not receive compensation for her duties, often regarded as more of a companion than a servant.”  The duties required of a lady-in-waiting varied from family to family, court to court, and region to region.  This is where the details get a little sketchy, in my opinion.  Even so, the basic idea is that a female was available to perform duties and tasks at the whim of her royal.  Even Kate Middleton has a lady-in-waiting, so the idea has not disappeared from royal society.  Understanding the traditional term only made me wonder more, why should women in the 21st century be encouraged to be a “devoted lady in waiting” for their husbands, as stated in the book I was reading?

Ladies, married ladies, in particular, who else would you rather wait on and serve, than your dear husband?  (Well, besides serving God, right?)  I hope you are in the type of relationship with both your husband, and God, that you can say, “Yes!  It is an honor to serve my husband!”  Think back to your marriage vows.  Did some of the words include “love, honor, and cherish.”  I said those words, and I meant them, but do my actions always reflect that belief?

Hubby's Coffee Station
My husband doesn’t expect me to make his coffee every morning, but it’s a simple gesture to keep his “coffee station” well-stocked with the morning ingredients he loves the most.


Now, before all of you start rolling your eyes and groaning, I will be the first to admit that I’ve had moments when I felt the shoe should be on the other foot!  Like when we first had our daughter, or when I went back to work when she was eight weeks old.  Where was my devoted helper?  When I was rushing to take care of our daughter, the house, and my classroom, I would become extremely irritated to see my husband playing video games or sleeping until noon on the weekend.  Over the years, I learned he wasn’t trying to be unhelpful, but rather he was unaware of my feelings.  He didn’t know that I felt I was doing more than I thought I could handle.  We had a few rough years, like many couples, but with prayer and determination, we made it through.

I think the idea of a “devoted lady in waiting” is referring to the helpmeet as described in Genesis 2:18 (KJV).  Upon creation of man, God saw that man would need help and companionship.  This was the purpose and drive behind creating woman.  Who am I to question God’s plan, anyway, but I really think this was one of the best!  I consider it an honor to be my husband’s wife and helper.  And in truth, we help each other, providing a healthy, sane balance to one another.  I keep him organized and punctual.  He helps me relax and not take life quite so seriously.  We help each other with those day-to-day tasks, too.  I run errands for him during the day while he’s at work and make sure he has plenty of Gatorade for the heat and coffee pods for the morning.  I enjoy preparing his favorite meals and keeping his home comfortable and inviting.  When I was so ill last week from a nasty reaction to poison oak, he went from pharmacy to pharmacy to find anything that might bring some relief.  He doesn’t mind folding laundry for me while I’m driving our daughter to various activities.

The point is, when we feel loved and respected, mutually, in our relationships, we are willing to do so much more to serve!  I absolutely do not feel that I’m taken for granted in our home, and I hope and pray he doesn’t feel taken for granted either!

Ready to be his “devoted lady in waiting?”  Check out these tips:


Today’s Scriptures  I read a lot of marriage and relationship help books by some great Christian authors.  The majority of my marriage advice and counsel, however, should come from God’s Word.  Here are just two examples.

Genesis 2:18 (KJV) “And the LORD God said, [It is] not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.”

1 Peter 3:1-7 (ESV)  “Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see our respectful and pure conduct.  Do not let your adorning be external–the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear–but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.  For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord.  And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening.  Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.”

Today’s Recipe  I certainly want to share a hubby-favorite today!  He loves these mini-meatloaves and cheddar mashed potatoes that I make from time to time.  There’s plenty of perks for everyone with these classic meatloaf mini-versions.  I’ve been sharing a lot of frugal food recently on the blog, and this is another thrifty budget dinner.  Making meatloaf or meat patties with a small amount of meat and the “filler” such as bread crumbs or oats stretches the meat a lot further.  Another great trick to stretching meat is to add diced or chopped mushrooms.  The earthiness is a great flavor bonus and the texture works well with ground meat.  Other recipe bonuses: portion control, faster cooking time, and clean-up is a breeze with these silicone muffin tins from Amazon.  They also meet my personal food allergy requirements.  I can top some of the mini-loaves with ketchup or barbecue sauce for my husband and daughter, while omitting this traditional meatloaf ingredient from my own servings.  Everybody wins!

Mini-Meatloaves with Cheddar Mashed Potatoes (makes 12 mini-meatloaf muffins, or 6 servings)

  • 1 lb lean ground beef
  • 4 oz mushrooms, chopped
  • 1 medium onion, chopped
  • 1/2 cup oats (any variety)
  • 1/4 cup grated parmesan
  • 1 TBS grill seasoning
  • 1 tsp Worcestershire sauce
  • 1 egg
  • 1/4 cup ketchup or barbecue sauce
  • 1 1/2 lb baby gold potatoes, halved (no need to peel!)
  • 3/4 cup milk
  • 1 cup shredded cheddar cheese


Heat oven to 425 degrees and spray a regular 12-cup muffin pan with nonstick cooking spray.  In large bowl combine ground beef and next 7 ingredients.  Divide evenly between the 12 muffin cups.  I don’t worry too much about packing them until all of the mixture has been evenly distributed.  Once the cups are full, press down gently with your fingers or the back of a spoon to make the muffins compact.  Top with ketchup or barbecue sauce as desired.  Bake at 425 for 25 minutes.

While the meat is baking, place halved potatoes in a medium pot.  Add water to cover and about a teaspoon of salt.  Bring to a boil.  Once boiling, reduce heat to medium and continue to cook 15-20 more minutes, or until potatoes are fork tender.  Once potatoes are cooked, drain off water.  Add milk and cheese and “smash” with a hand potato masher, like this OXO Good Grips Stainless Steel Potato Masher available from Amazon, leaving a chunkier texture to the potatoes.

We like to serve this dish with a side of fresh vegetables and freshly cracked pepper.